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May 2013 Be Your Best Year Yet

December 31, 2012

I was provoked into writing another post right now by one of the comments I got back from the last one. Someone was a bit resistant to the idea that we can create a life that is more wonderful than before when youth and our bodies start to go.

In this odd world we have co-created there are many beliefs about aging being a process of deterioration, a downhill path, a one-way trip to a bad end ūüėČ

Often the diagnosis of bone thinning is a first message from our body that it is time to treat it with a lot more care. Time to put ourselves first finally! But many doctors are so fear based that they scare women with what has forever been a natural occurrence. Telling women of 45 that they should no longer do forward bends is an example. Would you tell me how we can be in our lives without doing a forward bend!! And that is only a risk if you already have fractured vertebrae.

But now we have such wonderful ways to communicate with one another through the internet, we can find out about women turning their lives around miraculously every day.¬†You could spend ¬†20 minutes watching some of the TED and TEDx talks and be totally inspired to step forward in a new way into your own life. There are no problems that can’t be changed, even if the change is only in our attitude towards them.

Since I became really ill ten years ago and brought myself back to health from knowledge gained on the Internet and from books, my life has truly become more wonderful and a bigger adventure every year.¬†Back when I was sick I thought, “How can life get better now, I’ve done everything I came to do, I’ve raised a wonderful child, been through college and become educated, had a business that was successful, been married twice and not interested in doing that again. What is left for me to do?”

Now I clearly understand that I was thinking from a stressed place. When you think from stress, and stress is endemic in this culture, you are not thinking clearly.¬†Release your stress and think from a brand new place and then your thoughts are actually creative and useful.¬†You can release stress by EFT, a tapping process that is clearly explained on youtube, or by being out in nature, or spending time with people or animals that you love, meditating or doing whatever you do to make your world feel good again – not including eating ice cream ūüėČ

And if you have no clue what useful thing you can do in the world to help make it a better place, no clue what special talent and skill you came into share until your dying breath ;-), then just put ‘women’s blogs’ into Google and see the thousands of ways that women are contributing to each other now with the miracle of connection.¬†Women are writing their truth and, NO!, it has not all been said before. If your voice and your life experience is lacking then it has not all been said ūüôā

So I want to end with some links to videos that inspired me when I was down, check some of them out and see what is possible. The first two are women much older than most of us but that is why they are inspiring. They didn’t subscribe to the cultural beliefs, they marched to their own drums.

Watch this one to the end, it will surprise you Never underestimate an old gal

Johanna Quass is an 86-year-old woman

A broken body isn’t a broken person

Unlocking the Power of Women

So I wish you your best year ever for 2013

Virtual hug,

Creating Joy in Your Body

December 15, 2012

Hello again, I was going to do another walking video for you but most of you have the old dvds and there is one on that which has all the information so I thought I would bring up a topic suited for the holiday season.

After a certain age, when our bodies start to give us some grief or resistance, develop pain or discomfort, or no longer look the way we would like, we often think that the days of joy in our bodies are over. That is really not true!

My own experience shows that joy in the body can be regained at any age even after years of illness. I feel more at home in my body that I have ever felt in my life. I judge myself much less than ever before, I move more freely, I don’t care how I look on the outside to others. When I tune into my body as I move there is a total pleasure in every movement. Dancing is a big part of that and anyone can use dance to become more attuned to their body. Get a copy of Gabrielle Roth’s The Wave and play it in your own home. Or just turn on the music you have always enjoyed most and move in any way that pleases you.

If you are so out of touch with your body that even thinking of dancing at home alone makes you embarrassed or you feel it is impossible, then try this one small thing. Put on some soothing music and sit and listen with your eyes closed. Notice how the muscles in your body are moving very slightly without your intention. Your body is born for movement! It takes constant repression to keep it still. So take a deep breath and give your body permission to move a little more in whatever way feels best. This is wonderful when you are uptight or upset or stressed out.

There is also a harmony breath that you can use. Breathe in then let your breath out on the sound of Haaaaaaaa! with your mouth open. This gets your hypothalamus out of fight or flight mode and lets it know that you are safe. Do this as many times as you need to relax your whole body. When we breathe quick, shallow breaths as we do when we are doing mental tasks our body stays on the alert waiting for the tiger to appear. When we sit and do the harmony breath our body relaxes and we can move more freely.

Do this before you interact with anyone and it will change your relationships ūüėČ That would be a good Holiday present, would it not? Better than a tie or socks ūüėČ

The truth is that by being joyful in our bodies instead of fearful of imminent breakdown and disaster, we are creating the possibility of renewal of every cell in our body, not just bones. Fear destroys, joy creates.

My desire for all women is movement and joy in our bodies and our lives and a sense of infinite possibility at any age.

This has been an incredible year of growth for me.
I wish all of us to have the best year ever in 2013!


Resolutions for 2011

January 7, 2011

Well, I’ve been incredibly busy having a great time, which is part of my New Year’s Resolutions. I’m dancing NIA five days a week with an occasional weekend workshop thrown in. I rarely think about my bones any more except to appreciate how strong they are. In fact next week I’m going to try out a class I just found out about on learning trapeze and aerial gymnastics.

So you can see why I’ve been a little remiss in writing in this blog lately. I’m also in the middle of creating a new website selling dance clothing! Inner¬†Dance Clothing.¬†I found there was very little clothing suitable for women of my age who take up dance and NIA, for one, is full of women over 50. So I made myself some clothes and people liked them and now I’m starting something new.

I love¬†getting into¬†new areas of¬†interest and, when I focus my attention on something new, the Universe always brings me whatever I’m thinking about. Do you notice that in your life? It’s the Law of Attraction in action.

Anyway, back to resolutions; I’m being good again and cutting the sugar and wheat back out of my diet. I totally lost control since Thanksgiving. What’s funny is that I was clean for 5 days and then a visitor brought me an almond croissant and I felt so bad after I ate it that it reminded me how bad sugar is for me. If I had continued to eat it that effect would have disappeared from my attention as usual.

My BIG resolution this year though is to love myself totally. You probably know by now that I use the Abraham-Hicks principles to make my life more joyful and he always says the most important thing is to feel good. Check out youtube for numerous videos.

The more I can stream love into my life the better I feel. It’s totally working for me. There is no point in trying to love someone else when you don’t love yourself.¬† I remembered that one of the things I did long ago when I started my bone journey was to love my bones.¬†It’s counter-productive to think those fear thoughts that the drug-pushers are trying to make you think. Just appreciate the bones you have and then dream big. I dreamed of doing backbends again like I did when I was a kid and I’m doing it!

Your mind/body/Spirit wants to give you exactly what you want and the only way it can tell what you want is what you spend most of your time thinking about. If you think of collapsing bones then that’s what it will give you. Luckily there is a lag time in the creation so you can change your thoughts now before they get manifested. If you can’t think happy thoughts about your bones then just change the subject and get happy some other way; pet your dog or hug your friends.

Appreciate your bones just as they are every day, and then visualize yourself radiantly healthy, doing something you’ve always dreamed of doing but never really thought you would.

Maybe I’ll see you hanging from a trapeze someday,

Stay In Your Body

June 19, 2010

I went through a seven day process to train as a White Belt in NIA dance a couple of weeks ago. It was intense! We were moving for a large part of the day and learning some pretty esoteric stuff about music and movement as well.

It was also an intense self-learning time as we all saw our tendencies in movement come up time and again.¬†We got our buttons pushed in ways that we protect ourselves from in our normal lives.¬†Most humans¬†move within a certain chosen restricted range and we spend a lot of time in our heads instead of our bodies. The more time we can spend actually feeling at home in our body the easier it will be to adjust to the ebb and flow of our lives. As my first transformational teacher said back in the ’70’s, “Our heads and minds are the last to KNOW anything”.

One thing that came up in the sharing was that three of us had been short-sighted as children and that had not been recognized by adults around us for a long time. We had all chosen to adapt in different ways to not being able to see clearly but it clearly isolated all three of us and caused us to become introverts. I also had a movement pattern of holding my chin up trying to see better which I have not lost to this day, after Rolfing, Feldenkrais training and a zillion other bodywork modalities.

After witnessing this pattern so clearly and having the cause pop up in the general sharing I am able to shift it more easily, in my dance and in my life.

We all have traumas and resistances of various kinds that affect our movement. Recognizing them and releasing them through the dance is a hugely healing part of NIA.

I find that now I am dancing for an hour a day, I am less inclined to enjoy long periods on the computer. I WANT to be in my body again. I think I lost that joy of movement after menopause and after giving up on relationship. Dancing in a group of mostly women is a safe place to explore being in my body more fully.

So this is about me, and about the¬†rediscovery of the joy of being in my body, but it’s also about bones. My bones are so happy that I am moving vigorously every day! I am almost able to back bend to the floor again as I did as a child. When I first wanted to do that a voice in my head said, ” Be careful, what about your bones, what about fractured vertebrae.” Now I get it that my body knows what it can do and what it can’t and I just have to be quiet and listen as I move.

Not everyone has access to NIA dance in their community and hardly anyone has as wonderful a teacher as I have found in Kate, but there are videos available and there are other forms of dance like Zumba, the five rythyms and salsa that are becoming more common across the country. See what you can find.

In my whole life I have never enjoyed working out to the point of sweating, never! I really thought I couldn’t sweat. Now I lie in a soggy puddle on the floor at the end of every class and feel connected to Heaven and Earth through every happy¬†cell in my body.

I feel so blessed that this has come into my life when I am still young enough to enjoy it, in fact, I feel twenty years younger than when I started in February.

So please, get your tushes out of your chairs and tear your eyes away from those addicting screens and join me in the dance of life.


Bone Drugs Linked to Broken Femur

May 4, 2010

The New York Times had an article on March 24 about bisphosphonate drugs being linked to the snapping of the femur bone in relatively young women.

After 4 years of telling you about the dangers of these bone drugs I’m probably preaching to the choir and I dislike adding to the fear-mongering that is prevalent in health blogs BUT I guess it’s my job to keep you up with the latest news about this.

‚ÄúThe femur bone was snapping like a twig, sometimes splintering. Often there was no trauma, such as a serious fall, to bring it on. And some of the women were younger, in their 50s, with pre-osteoporosis but without the extremely fragile bones of people with the full-blown condition,‚ÄĚ says the NYT.

The fractures are highly unusual because they are occurring in the long bone of the thigh, one of the strongest bones of the body, when ordinarily thighbone fractures occur near the hip socket. Further, because this area does not have a rich blood supply, the fractures are difficult to heal.

Bisphosphonate drugs are poison, they are being given out indescriminately to women who don’t need them and the risks are finally becoming obvious in the bodies of women. That last bit was from me, not the NYTimes. ūüėČ They were only tested for five years and many doctors will only prescribe them for that length of time. Since most hip fractures occur to women over 80, why are young women under 50 being put on these drugs? It doesn’t make sense. Diet, weight-bearing exercise, supplements and bio-identical hormones can all strengthen women’s bones in a way that benefits the whole body and is not poisonous to the system.

So much for the bad news. The good news is that I am totally loving the NIA dance workout that I started in February. It feels as if every cell in my body has benefitted. I am actually going to 6 classes this week, I’m getting totally addicted. It is dance with martial arts and Feldenkrais thrown in and I have an inspired teacher.

For a person who only did the rebounder in 10 minute segments because of my low boredom threshold, it is amazing to be dancing around for an hour without even noticing the time. At yoga I was always looking at the clock. Dancing NIA makes me happy and I feel more creative than I have in years also. I can honestly say I feel twenty years younger.

So find yourself a NIA class; you can do that at and strengthen your bones the happy way.